A lovely story of moms helping moms:
Article: Mind-Minded Parenting
How mental state talk helps kids learn about beliefs, feelings, and the perspectives of other people -
Mind-minded parents may also be more likely to
• Pay attention to their baby’s gaze and interest in objects
• Imitate their infant’s actions
• Engage in sensitive, appropriate mind-minded talk—-i.e., comment on what a child seems to be feeling or thinking. For example, a parent who sees her baby looking at a toy camel might ask the baby “Do you remember seeing a camel at the zoo?” (Meins et al 2001).
• Assume that their children can understand and benefit from conversations about emotions and mental states
What does this approach do for us?
Mind-minded parenting might strengthen our attachment relationships.
- See more at: http://www.parentingscience.com/mind-minded-parenting.html
Article: The Science of Attachment Parenting
I enjoyed this research based article on benefits of attachment parenting. They don't go overboard and making sweeping declarations, just reporting research results.
I like the reference to mind-minded parenting:
"Mind-minded" parents treat their children--no matter how young-- as individuals with minds, feelings, thoughts, and beliefs of their own.
Psychologist Elizabeth Meins and her colleagues have shown that mind-minded parenting is linked with with the development of stronger empathy and perspective-taking skills in children.
- See more at: http://www.parentingscience.com/attachment-parenting.html#sthash.uimSxZJ6.dpuf
Article: Why I Post Pictures of My Children Breastfeeding
"So, I post pictures of my children nursing because nursing is beautiful and ephemeral. And because by doing so, I am planting a seed. For every person who might sneer or snicker at my picture, there is an expectant mother—or a young woman who will one day become a mother—looking at the warm embrace between myself and my child. I hope she is feeling the love radiating from her screen. I hope she will pick up on how extraordinary, but entirely ordinary my picture is. I hope she will breathe a sigh of relief, knowing that she will be supported and lifted up in her choice of how to feed her child."
This is exactly what I hope to achieve with my blog.
In a milk coma:
Passed out:
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Because Crying is Communication
From: Little Hearts Books/Gentle Parenting Resources
http://www.littleheartsbooks.com
API Infant Sleep Safety Brochure
From Attachment Parenting International, here are guidelines for safe sleeping in the first six months of babies life:
http://org2.salsalabs.com/o/5590/t/3434/content.jsp?content_KEY=891&key=1103215
Nonviolent Parenting
I just found this great Facebook group called Nonviolent Parenting. I have already learned a lot from their page. This graphic about tantrums reinforced what I already thought to be true- your toddler needs you even more when they are having a tantrum! Young children are simply incapable of processing emotions and so they explode, just like adults do sometimes.
Article: Parenting Lessons from Tribes Around the World
http://www.mamahub.nl/mamahub/2015/1/26/parenting-lessons-from-tribes-around-the-world-a-conversation-with-acclaimed-photographer-jimmy-nelson
Here is my favorite passage:
So the babies are constantly on the mothers?
Yes, they’re never left alone. If the parents are working, the other brothers and sisters carry the babies. They’re always sleeping between the parents, or the brothers and sisters, and from when the day begins, they’re attached to another human being. Everywhere you go, that is a common denominator. Obviously, in the colder climates, they do that for warmth, but even in the warm climates.
Do the babies then still whine and cry?
Hardly at all, no. There’s always human contact. All their needs are being met. They’re constantly on the boob. They just need the warmth.
Hardly at all, no. There’s always human contact. All their needs are being met. They’re constantly on the boob. They just need the warmth.
And during the night, do they wake a lot, nursing?
You never hear that they’re awake. They nurse all night, so they sleep like my children were brought up, next to their mother. If they’re hungry, they get something. There’s never any process of screaming or yelling.
You never hear that they’re awake. They nurse all night, so they sleep like my children were brought up, next to their mother. If they’re hungry, they get something. There’s never any process of screaming or yelling.
Do you think this parenting style is possible in our society?
Our first one was attached to me, 24 hours of the day. I had this long wrap sling, and she grew up facing me, and then when she got older, she’d be facing out, and fall asleep. Everywhere I went on the bike, I had her in my sling. She lived in there, for about 3 years; so much so that when you took her out, she would scream, because she wanted the contact. She just came with us. If she fell asleep and we weren’t ready to go to bed, she would stay attached to me or my wife. Come bedtime, we would just put her down and we’d all sleep together.
Our first one was attached to me, 24 hours of the day. I had this long wrap sling, and she grew up facing me, and then when she got older, she’d be facing out, and fall asleep. Everywhere I went on the bike, I had her in my sling. She lived in there, for about 3 years; so much so that when you took her out, she would scream, because she wanted the contact. She just came with us. If she fell asleep and we weren’t ready to go to bed, she would stay attached to me or my wife. Come bedtime, we would just put her down and we’d all sleep together.
It depends on how enthusiastic and committed you are as a parent. We live in this world of 1,001 opportunities and distractions. To keep the child away from that requires you to apply yourself as a parent, on a far greater level than most people ever do. Unfortunately, being acknowledged as a mother is not significant anymore. We believe it’s far more important to be somebody, and have a title.
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