MOTHER'S ROOM

Are you a new mom and wondering what does a typical Lactation Room look like?

Here is what our Mother's Room looks like at work.

 The "IN USE" sign indicates that the room is occupied. 

 We have a full length mirror, bulletin board, fridge

Pump Storage area, magazine rack, hand sanitizer supply, Chlorox wipes, 
Medela quick clean wipes and counter

Tissues for those occasional tears or milk drips

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STORING AND SCALDING LIPASE BREASTMILK


I discovered (by a bottle-refusing baby, vomit-smelling milk, and my breastfeeding support group) that I have an excess lipase issue. Due to this, my milk changes smell and taste much faster than normal. To stop this process, I have to scald my milk before it can be frozen. Freezing milk does not stop the process. I've found that my milk lasts a little less than 2 hours unrefrigerated, and about 24 hours refrigerated. I've only frozen scalded milk. 

The scalding process does slightly reduce the nutritional benefits of the milk, but as long as baby only gets scalded milk occasionally it is not a problem. This is why I did not have a big stash of milk and was not away from my baby very often or for long periods of time. 

To scald breastmilk, you must heat it to 163F and keep it at that temperature for 15 seconds. or you can just let it hit a temperature of 180F and immediately start cooling. I typically let mine go past 163F and then it would keep rising a few degrees during those 15 seconds before I dunked it into ice.
Source: Lawrence R, Lawrence R. Breastfeeding: A Guide for the Medical Profession, 6th ed. Philadelphia, Pennsylvania: Mosby, 2005: 156-158, 203-205, 771, 781.

Having the right tools makes this scalding process much easier. If you have high lipase levels in your Breastmilk, I highly recommend the supplies listed below to treat your milk before storing it. Most warmers will not get the temperature high enough due to having an automatic shut-off. 

The RIGHT Tools:

The process is SO MUCH EASIER with the bottle warmer and taller thermometer. The stainless steel bottle is KEY. Plastic bottles take much longer to warm the milk. Who has time to wait for that???

Before I purchased these items I was warming my milk on the stove. IN A POT. It was terrible. My hands were burning with steam, the top-heavy thermometer would threaten to tip over the bottle, and it took forever.
The Wrong Tools (don't do this):



The ExpectingHappiness Lipase Breastmilk Scalding Instructions:

1) Combine milk into one bottle, write measurement of volume on the storage bag you plan to use (bottle measurements are more accurate than the bags).

These would actually add up to 4.75oz





2) Place stainless steel bottle of milk in the bottle warmer- set the time to 2:00-3:00 minutes, fill with water according to directions. Watch the thermometer to see what time you get to the 163F mark. This is a bit of a learning curve, but you’ll start to know how long each amount takes to scald (my typical 4oz batches took around 2 minutes). Or heat milk to about 180 F (82 C) and immediately remove bottle from the warmer.
3) Remove bottle and put in a bath of cool water.

4) Once milk has reached room temperature (doesn’t feel warm to the touch), funnel milk into a breastmilk storage bag. I find breastshields to be the perfect size funnel!

5) Put freezer bags into larger gallon storage bag (just in case of leaks) to keep all the milk organized (Always store milk in the BACK of the freezer away from the varying temperatures of the door, lay flat on side so the milk freezes flat).

6) When it is time to use your frozen milk, I recommend defrosting overnight in the fridge, just put it in a large bowl in case your bag leaks (my bags NEVER leaked, but I am paranoid!). Pour into a bottle, and tell your baby to enjoy!

Here’s some more information on the Stainless Steel Bottle; and the Bottle Warmer.


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The following information on Lipase is from KellyMom:
Source: http://kellymom.com/bf/pumpingmoms/milkstorage/lipase-expressedmilk/

Does your milk smell or taste soapy?
A few mothers find that their refrigerated or frozen milk begins to smell or taste soapy, even though all storage guidelines have been followed closely. Per Lawrence & Lawrence (p. 781), the speculation is that these mothers have an excess of the enzyme lipase in their milk, which begins to break down the milk fat soon after the milk is expressed. Most babies do not mind a mild change in taste, and the milk is not harmful, but the stronger the taste the more likely that baby will reject it.

Lipase is an enzyme that is normally present in human milk and has several known beneficial functions:
  • Lipases help keep milk fat well-mixed (emulsified) with the “whey” portion of the milk, and also keep the fat globules small so that they are easily digestible (Lawrence & Lawrence, p. 156).
  • Lipases also help to break down fats in the milk, so that fat soluble nutrients (vitamins A & D, for example) and free fatty acids (which help to protect baby from illness) are easily available to baby (Lawrence & Lawrence, p. 156).
  • The primary lipase in human milk, bile salt-stimulated lipase (BSSL), “has been found to be the major factor inactivating protozoans” (Lawrence & Lawrence, p. 203).
  • Per Lawrence & Lawrence (p. 158), the amount of BSSL in a particular mother’s milk does not vary during a feed, and is not different at different times of day or different stages of lactation.
  • There is evidence that there may be a decrease in lipase activity over time in mothers who are malnourished.
  • Many mothers who need to store their expressed milk but have problems with excess lipase sometimes wonder whether changing their diets may help.
KellyMom discusses other options for scaling here: http://kellymom.com/bf/pumpingmoms/milkstorage/lipase-expressedmilk/

Once the milk becomes sour or rancid smelling/tasting, there is no known way to salvage it.
If you have frozen milk in your freezer that your child refuses, here are some options:
  • Try mixing the “rejected” frozen milk with fresh milk. Start with half frozen, half fresh and adjust the amount of frozen milk up or down depending on your child’s preferences.
  • Consider donating your frozen milk to a milk bank. Lipase and other taste issues are not typically an problem for milk banks. Visit HMBANA for more information and to find your closest milk bank.
If you have any questions about scalding your milk, feel free to email me:

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CONVERTIBLE CARSEAT

 Originally Posted: 9/6/14

After a long and tearful drive to Hilton Head, we decided it was time to : a) stop going on long car trips, and b) buy a convertible car seat. Everything I read indicated that babies were much happier in the new, roomier, more upright seats.
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I got lost in research and when we got to Babies R Us our heads were spinning. We decided to go with a new seat that Keira liked sitting in and seemed very easy to use (a key safety factor!). We tried it for almost two months and she seemed comfortable when she was awake but her head always slumped over. I did a ton more research and found one clear winner- Peg Perego's Primi Viaggio Convertible seat. Babies R Us took our old seat back no problem and then did a price match for us on the new seat to Amazons price. Keira seems so comfortable and her head NEVER slumps over. It's always so sweetly turned to the side and she looks like she can snooze so peacefully. I am sure that our old seat would work for most babies but we are happy with our new one!


6/29/15 Update: We still love the Peg Perego Convertible Seat!





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REVIEW OF MAMA'S MILKBOX #3

Oh how I love my Mama's MilkBox deliveries... Functional, comfortable clothes are MY THING.


Mama's MilkBox is 
A nursing apparel subscription service 
for Moms who love to look good, feel good and breastfeed their babies
http://www.mamasmilkbox.com


My first item was one I have had my eye on for a while. It's a blue and black cowl neck top. I would recommend sizing up in this one. I am wearing a Medium below and if it were a Large, I probably would have kept it.



My second top was a lovely heather grey sleeveless top by Loyal Hana. It has hidden zipper openings and a very cool back gathering detail. 

Cluster F...

Cluster Feeding.
(what did you think I was going to say?)
Originally Posted: 12/09/2013

I did not know much about this special thing until recently.

Cluster feeding (as explained by KellyMom http://kellymom.com/parenting/parenting-faq/fussy-evening/) is:

Cluster feeding, also called bunch feeding, is when babies space feeding closer together at certain times of the day and go longer between feedings at other times. This is very common, and often occurs in the evenings. It’s often -but not always- followed by a longer sleep period than usual: baby may be “tanking up” before a long sleep. For example, your baby may nurse every hour (or even constantly) between 6 and 10 PM, then have a longish stretch of sleep at night – baby may even sleep all night.
Cluster feeding often coincides with your baby’s fussy time. Baby will nurse a few minutes, pull off, fuss/cry, nurse a few minutes, pull off, fuss/cry… on and on… for hours. This can be VERY frustrating, and mom starts wondering if baby is getting enough milk, if something she is eating is bothering baby, if EVERYTHING she is doing is bothering baby… It can really ruin your confidence, particularly if there is someone else around asking the same questions (your mother, your husband, your mother-in-law).
Last night, Keira fed from around 5:30 to 11:30, with no more than 10 minute breaks for mom. I quickly ran to the bathroom and scarfed down dinner while Mike and my SIL, Molly, tried to console Keira while she cried until I returned (with her food!)

At around hour 5.5, I sat in bed crying and reading articles on "how to survive cluster feeding". There's no way to explain or prepare for how insane you start feeling when there is a baby attached to you for 6 hours straight. Eating dinner is no longer feasible and guests who visit in the evenings will only get to see my nursing cover:


KellyMom continues to explain that:
This behavior is NORMAL! It has nothing to do with your breastmilk or your mothering. If baby is happy the rest of the day, and baby doesn’t seem to be in pain (as with colic) during the fussy time – just keep trying to soothe your baby and don’t beat yourself up about the cause. Let baby nurse as long and as often as he will. Recruit dad (or another helper) to bring you food/drink and fetch things (book/remote/phone/etc.) while you are nursing and holding baby.

Does this mean that baby needs more milk than I can provide?

No. Don’t give baby a bottle — supplementation will only tell your body that you need LESS milk at this time, and that will not help matters. Also, keep in mind that formula fed babies experience fussy periods in the evening, too — fussy evenings are common for all young babies, no matter how they are fed. 
So it's all normal and we know she is getting plenty of food, so I just have to survive it! I started attending Breastfeeding Support Group and that helps to just talk it out. For you future mommies out there, remember that breast is best and it will get frustrating but remember that there is all sorts of support out there. For now, I will keep reminding myself!

TEXT4BABY

In my first trimester, my insurance provider recommended signing up for this free text notification service-

Sign up HERE:
https://m.text4baby.org/sign-up.php

I have found it very helpful through pregnancy and now taking care of baby, with reminders for appointments and tips for taking care of yourself.

Are you pregnant? 
Have a baby? 
Are you a grandparent?


Here is an example of texts I receive as a parent:

Sign up today for customized messages!
https://m.text4baby.org/sign-up.php

Originally Posted: 4/4/2014

REVIEW: STITCH FIX #6


I'm always excited to receive my StitchFix  delivery, especially when it's handed to me me by the this sweet little toddler!


PREGNANCY CARE PACKAGE

Originally posted: 02/17/2014

A little less than a year ago, shortly after I told her I was pregnant, my sister sent me a pregnancy care package (read about it here:  Sharing the News, Part One).

So when my sister-in-law announced she was pregnant, I packed up my maternity clothes for her to borrow and then sent her a pregnancy care package of some of my favorites items from my pregnancy:

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1)  earth mama angel baby body butter. 
My mom gave me this and I loved the way it smelled, very natural smelling and it made me happy when I was sometimes feeling nauseous.

2) pregnancy countdown book. 
A page for every day, what more could you ask for?!

3) preggie pop drops. 
Yummy little candies you can discreetly pop in your mouth when you're feeling a little vomit-y, or you just want something yummy! My sister included these so I carried on the tradition.

4) saltines. 
They are the best for upset tummies and for people who like salt.

5) bra extenders. 
You can keep wearing all your beloved bras even as your chest is expanding with these great invention!

6) tums. 
I had heartburn from the moment of conception. Tums were a esophagus saver!

It was so fun to pass along a "sisterly" tradition!


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OUR STORY

Mike and I always knew that we wanted to have kids, and we knew that we would "just know" when it was the right time. After an amazing trip to Arizona, we came back even stronger- maybe it was the Sedona vortex, or the grandness of the Grand Canyon; but we were different.


The morning after we returned from Arizona, we hopped in the mini Cooper and drove up to Philly for my friend Sarah's wedding. It was such a personalized intimate wedding, we felt lucky to be there. There were several children there and they were all adorable. After the wedding we went to a bar next to our hotel and talked... about having kids. It was the right time.


After several months of negatives, I could barely believe my eyes when I saw two lines. It's still surreal, but becoming more real every day (especially as my pants get tighter and I feel more and more nauseous). Baby will even get to attend a wedding this summer, one of my very oldest friends in the world, Ashley. Our whole "family" is looking forward to it!

Originally published: 3/25/13

BABY SAFETY

Babies haven’t changed, 
but what we know about them has
A recent article I read got me thinking that it might be handy to share the current school of thought on what is safest for baby... I liked the way that a TIME magazine article put it- "babies haven’t changed, but what we know about them has."
(you can read the full TIMES magazine article HERE)

This also applies to young people, like me, who don't were just clueless about the baby "rules" (luckily my sister and the internet have given me a lesson!)

Here are today's tips for Baby Safety (as of 2013): 

SLEEP POSITION: Babies now snooze on their backs instead of their tummies — the hallmark of the “Back to Sleep” campaign.

CRIBS: Cribs should be bare of bumpers, pillows, stuffed animals and blankets. Today’s crib should contain a mattress, a crib sheet, and a baby — nothing else. Drop side cribs are unsafe.

CARSEATS: Infants should be placed in rear-facing car seats in the back seat until they are one year old and 22 pounds. Do not wrap baby in blankets or heavy clothing before placing in the car seat. Do not place extra padding under the baby. Secure infant snugly with harness straps and then cover with a blanket if desired. Pediatricians recommend remaining rear facing until 2 years old. Babies are 500% safer in a rear-facing position.

 NUTRITION:  Exclusive breastfeeding is recommended up to 6 months of age, with continued breastfeeding along with appropriate complementary foods up to two years of age or beyond.

MEDICINE: Baby aspirins have been replaced with acetaminophen to treat children with a fever. Giving baby aspirin to a child with a fever may cause a serious illness called Reye’s syndrome. The old home remedy of rubbing whiskey on the gums of a child is also dangerous, as it’s found to be poisonous.

SWADDLING: Recent studies have shown that restricting arm movement is the best way to soothe a baby. But wrapping tightly below the belt could lead to hip dysplasia.

BABY POWDER:  This is one product that shouldn’t be on a modern changing table, since the tiny particles might irritate a baby’s delicate breathing passages if they’re inhaled. Instead, liberally apply a hypoallergenic baby moisturizing lotion to a freshly bathed baby.

BOTTLE FEEDING: Don't Add Cereal to a Bottle; Studies have shown that introducing cereal won’t help a baby sleep through the night any sooner. In fact, feeding solids before a young digestive system is ready to process them can lead to all sorts of tummy troubles — and even contribute to obesity later in life.

WALKERS: Walkers have a very high rate of accidental injury and should not be used. Studies have also shown that walkers hinder proper muscular development for standing and walking.

BABY CARRIERS: Baby carriers are a great way to take baby with you without the hassle of a stoller. However, babies should always be worn facing the wearer (whether on the front or the back). Wearing baby facing out doesn't support babies legs, and puts pressure on babies spine and groin. 


Handling a Newborn:
If you haven't spent a lot of time around newborns, their fragility may be intimidating. Here are a few basics to remember:

·         Wash your hands (or use a hand sanitizer) before handling a newborn. Young babies have not built up a strong immune system yet, so they are susceptible to infection. Make sure that everyone who handles your baby also has clean hands.

·         Be careful to support baby's head and neck. Cradle the head when carrying your baby and support the head when carrying the baby upright or when you lay him or her down.

·         Make sure baby is securely fastened into the carrier, stroller, or car seat. Limit any activity that could be too rough or bouncy.

·         Remember that newborns are not ready for rough play, such as being jiggled on the knee or thrown in the air.

(These are only rules for BABY/Infant safety... there's another whole set of topics once they start crawling and walking)


Anyone have any other safety tips they want to share? Please educate me!


Originally posted: 9/11/13

GUIDE TO GETTING PREGNANT


Originally Posted on 5/6/13

It's just not as easy as those Teen Moms make it seem, especially when you are in your 30's or 40's. 
Here's my advice for getting pregnant, I know everyone is different, but this came from a  few recommendations from my sister, lots of reading on the internet, and books (see below) that I ordered from Amazon.
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So, for my married friends who have not yet dove head first into the world of parenthood, whenever you are ready, here's what I recommend-

Read "An Impatient Woman's Guide to Getting Pregnant" by Jean M. Twenge. It is the best no-nonsense book for impatient people, and she gives very good practical advice on interpreting your Clearblue easy monitor. I am definitely an impatient woman and she made me feel totally sane for being obsessed with my ovulation dates. I am confident that this book played a large role in getting pregnant in 2013 in less than 5 months. 


Purchase and use the Clearblue Easy Fertility Monitor (CEFM), it makes things so much easier. I was lucky to receive this free from my sister (they don't recommend sharing the monitor but I ignored that warning). This was also a large part in determining those exact ideal dates for conception. It seems expensive but when you are seeing those two lines the cost seems minimal. 


Order some of these cheap WONDFO ovulation predictor kits (OPK). Also buy a huge pack of their pregnancy tests. I recommend this awesome combo pack. These are the kinds that the doctors office use and require a little cup to dip them into but for the obsessive testers this can save you tons of money. I did get a positive using this test the same day that I received a positive on the First Response tests. 


Don't buy pregnancy tests with blue lines, they are terrible and have strong reputation for false positives. Stick with First Response with the two pink lines, they are the most reliable. Digitals are good too but it takes longer to get a positive result. The digital tests wait until they reach a certain threshold to give you that "Positive" read. With the pink ones you can hold them up to a window or a bright light like a crazy person and try to find that second pink line. 

You are going to test too early, and it's going to be negative, and you are going to be really disappointed. You have to either get used to having false negatives, or learn to wait. I just got used to the negatives because I couldn't wait (and good thing too because I got my positive result fairly early, right at the earliest day that First Response will guarantee a result).


Check out the website- www.countdowntopregnancy.com  An amazing place with all sorts of statistics and thousands of photos of other people's ovulation and pregnancy tests that you can vote on whether you think they look positive or negative. You can post your own and have people vote too! This is for all you early testers. 

Download the Fertility Friend App, try out the premium features, you are going to want to keep these. It is worth the $20-30 it costs for a few months subscription to have the detailed analysis that tells you exactly what is going on with your body.


You are going to tell someone you are "trying"! And when they say "Don't try TOO hard", or "Don't worry it will happen", or "Don't forget it takes most healthy couples 6 months to conceive"- know that they mean well, but those things usually don't make you feel better. Just ignore the advice and know that any good book will say that you cannot try too hard and until they go through it- they don't realize how long 6 months, heck even 2 months, seems when you are going through this!

You will start hearing stories of people that it "happened on the first try", or "was just a happy accident"! You may become slightly annoyed with these people.

There are tons of vitamins and supplements out there that supposedly help with fertility. I started taking Vitafusion Gummy Prenatal Vitamins from the first day we even thought about trying to get pregnant. Then I started adding in more of the other supplements - B6, Evening Primrose Oil, Acidophilus. I drank tons of grapefruit juice (supposedly that helps), and for the most part I stopped drinking (except for special occasions).

Go see your doctor- get up to date on all of your immunizations, tell them you want to get pregnant. They can give you proper medical advice (my advice here is just what worked for me, it is not medical advice).

Go see your dentist- you want to get any dental work out of the way before you are pregnant.

Other Books to Read:
Taking Charge of Your Fertility
by Toni Wechsler.
by Michael C. Lu.
by Amy Ogle.


Movies to watch:
Knocked Up
What to Expect
Look Who's Talking
Father of the Bride, Part Two
The Baby Makers
Friends with Kids

Movies to avoid:
Sliding Doors
Battle in Seattle
The Time Travelers Wife

Note: I purposely wrote this all down before I found out that I was pregnant so that I could accurately capture the frustration of the process. I already have a much more optimistic view on the whole situation.

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